Sunday, May 12, 2013

A Not-So-Happy Mother's Day

"Praying for women struggling with infertility, miscarriage, and infant loss this Mother's Day.

Today is Mother's Day. I got to sleep in until 10am and then facebooked in bed until 11. 
Someone else made my coffee for me and there's bacon and cinnamon rolls in the oven that I didn't put there. 

This is my first Mother's Day since having Ellie, making me the Mom of three girls... 
...But in my heart I'm the Mom of four girls. 

So while I want to honor all mothers and grandmothers in the traditional sense, I also want to recognize all the people who don't find Mother's Day such a happy occasion. 

Your Grandmother, Mother, or a mother figure has passed away, maybe not even getting to meet your little ones.
You're a Father who has to play the role of Father and Mother to your youngsters.
You're estranged from your children, or from your Mother. 
God has given you a mother's heart, but no children of your own. 
You've struggled with infertility, mourning every month.
You're a Mom or Mother figure who didn't carry your baby in your womb.
You've suffered through the loss of a child.
You've carried a life inside your body, but never got to meet your baby.
You've carried a life inside your body... and regret choosing abortion. I sense that you might need to hear that guilt is not from God. He offers forgiveness and hope and mercy for you. 

And a hundred other scenarios that would make this day a painful one that drives you away from facebook so you won't have to read all the "Happy Mother's Day" posts. 

This isn't how it's supposed to be. 
We live in a world that has chosen to fall away from God, allowing pain and death in.

But Christ came and died and defeated death forever so that one day everything will be as it's supposed to be.
One day He will wipe away every tear from your eyes and you won't feel the pain and sorrow you do now.

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